Does the perfect partner exist.

Hey guys, I haven't written anything for a while. I've had some issues of my own and I am trying bravely to deal. Anyway, just out of curiosity, I'm wondering about your thoughts on the perfect man/woman and if they actually exist.

I've had several girlfriends recently go through breakups and quickly meet new men and a few months later the things they thought were cute, funny, gorgous and just wonderful, are now irritating the crap out of them. Mind you, I got to do a big eyebrow raise and breath in the glorious odor of "I told you so" smuggly.

I am a great believer in a woman spending some time on her own. We just can't know what we really need or want unless we have learnt to be a little selfish (in a healthy way) and lived our life for ourself. When I live on my own, I find good friends, good music, socialising, writing, working, having time out, a pet, dancing, going out with friends, suffering a terrible hangover and doing lunch the next day with a bestie (best friend), laughing, watching stupid things like Puppetry of the Penis with girlfriends and laughing out loud, texting guys, prank calling guys (that I know) and using french accents, discussing love affairs, going out and pretending to be Irish and swear a lot, wear rabbit ears or princess crowns out to lunch, turning on strange guys by eating pluto pups or lollipops in a suggestive manner, wearing short skirts and bending over in supermarkets in front of cute guys, just so much fun...OMG.

It has taught me something. It may seem to be just a plethera of stupidity, but it's taught me who I am. The thing is, not having to answer to anybody about my behavior makes me happy. The problem is, finding a guy who is happy with that. I've had four serious relationships in my time and each man had something about him that was wonderful. Each man also had things about him that were not so wonderful.

I found each relationship was different but had similarities. One was sooo straight, controlled through care "It's not you I don't trust. It's the men out there, other drivers out there, the hardships in the workplace out there. You just stay home and I'll look after everything." He was conservative. One was totally non conservative, a wild man, fun. The funniest man I'd ever met. Exciting and sexy to boot. But WOW he was the most controlling ever. "People think your a prostitute the way you dress. All your friends are known through town to be whores." One was broken by drug and alcohol and so I became the controller. Just the sweetest man, but needy and I mothered him and stressed mysel stupid about what he might get up to while I was working. Yet another was totally non controlling, accepting but very low on the excitement scale.

All my friends and I agree that we are confused, can you have passion and non violent or controlling behavior. If I could just cut off the bits I loved and toss the bits I didn't, I could have the perfect man. I want the ringlets and sense of humor of this one, the passion, the adoration of that one, the dependebility and acceptance of another one and the total reliability and eyes of another. I could keep that ones arms, the other ones body, this ones strength and oh year, I loved that other ones legs and a bit I can't mention. So, please, help us with your experiences. Does the perfect partner exist. This is for you guys too. I'm sure you have the same issues. Give us some feedback...Jackie